“Sexual orientation or sexual preference” was a phrase that caught my eye last week in surfing the internet. As I continued to think about this question, I realized I have used sexual preference numerous times in conveying information about myself.
What has me bothered is that I have used words that convey that I had a choice. I do not prefer women like I prefer coke over pepsi, democrat over republican or Christian over Muslim. I was drawn to the female population at a young age and never had a choice. It came naturally.
I’ve realized with horror that I’ve used words given to me by society to convey something about myself that is not true. I am wondering where the popular phrase of “sexual preference” came from? Maybe some of you know of its origin?
From now on, I will be using sexual orientation, or possibly sexual identity. It is a part of who I am, much like my unique characteristics or personality. Maybe if we all stop using sexual preference and replace it with orientation or identity, more people will stop thinking of it as a choice? ©2007 dr pers